Dh vent

I honestly feel like I have three kids.  Dh and I have been fighting/arguing since last summer right after the girls were born.  He was working and I obviously was at home with the girls.  A couple weeks after their birth he decides he doesn't want to help at night when they wake up to eat (the were bf and ff as I couldn't supply enough) so he was physically able to help.  I couldn't take it for long.  I looked like a walking zombie - literally.  So after intervention with the Pastor dh started helping out again.  It is still hard to get him to clean up after his big hairy german shepard who likes to carpet the dining/kitchen floors - ewwww.  It's his dog, clean it up!!!!!  Plus, it's just unsanitary.  I don't think he's given either of the dogs a bath in months!  I gave up and gave my boxer one recently b/c I couldn't take the stench anymore.  Hello!!!!!  I've got two infants to take care of, cloth diapers to wash, feeding, clothes to wash.  Did I mention that I'm the one that take them to and from daycare, drives about 1 hr each way and works a full time job.  Right now, all dh has is school!!!  Granted it's BLET but still.  He can't take the trash out without being asked?  Or sweep the freakin floors to clean up after his nasty stinky hairy dog?  Is it too much to ask that he rinses and puts the few dishes that are dirty in the sink each night?  There's not a lot of dishes as I don't have time to cook so I eat frozen dinners - one dirty fork or spoon for me and the girls dirty bottles from daycare etc.

Last night dh throws this little comment at me: the instructor said this would happen, you'd work 12 hour shifts and then get home to a nagging wife asking why you didn't take the trash out.  Ummm, am I missing something?  Does taking the trash out really tax a grown adult male so much?  What does he think I work?  6 am - 6 pm getting ready for work, going to work, coming back from work and daycare and then 6 pm - 8/9 pm taking care of daughters/laundry/feeding/cleaning etc.  I think that equates to more then 12 hours or is my math wrong?  I'm so sick of his poor me attitude - and yes I still love him.  I just want him to grow up!