04/26/2010 03:13
Failing marriage and Vitamin Injection Diet Programs
Sorry I haven't been around lately. I just haven't been able to bring myself to do very much lately. My husband told me a month ago that he was no longer in love with me and he wanted a divorce. No amount of begging, pleading or promising would change his mind. He says I have held him back from doing the things he wants to do in life (including own a Harley) and from just being able to do whatever he wants when he wants. I think he felt that when our oldest graduated high school, I would be free to go on the truck and travel the country with him. And I would love that to a point...but we have two little ones now (4 and 6) so that isn't going to happen any time soon. And even is we were on the truck, it isn't like he and I can just leave them in the truck to go to the local sports bar or whatever.
He agreed to a trial separation but let's be real, I think he only said that to get my off his back and because there isn't anyone else in his life right now. The thing is, I still love this man. Even tho things have been really tough the past 9 months or so, I love him. I don't want a divorce, and I'm just not sure what I am supposed to do. He says I am a wonderful mom, and a wonderful friend...and he loves me as his kids mom and as his friend. He just doesn't love me as a wife. He also says he loves our sex life and would like to continue it so long as it doesnt make me feel like a piece of meat. Part of me thinks how can he say such a thing?? And then part of me thinks that the fact that he still wants to be intimate with me is a good sign that maybe we can work things out. Most of my friends are saying to let him go and to not have sex or help him with anything. He's a big boy and let him see what it is like to do it on his own. And a part of me agrees but then another part thinks this will just push him away more and prove his point that I have let him down.
I don't know what to do. I have read a lot of those "get your ex back" programs online and even thought about trying a few of their techniques, but they just do not apply to our situation since the #1 thing they say to do is cut off all contact with your ex for at least a month. Well we have kids and a business (small trucking company.) So we have to talk daily. So then I thought, well I need to pull myself together for myself and these kids...and being healthy is HUGE. I realized that one of the reasons why I never was as willing to just up and go do fun stuff with my husband was because of my weight. It has held me back SO much. And now because of all this, I am losing not only my husband but my best friend. It hurts so badly. All I want to do is eat donuts, lay in bed and cry. I know I can't do this...I just don't know what to do to find happiness.
I have heard about a local weight loss center called Go Figure Medical Weight Loss Center which is a vitamin injection diet program. Has anyone else heard about them? They seem to have a good success rate and apparently the B-12 injections help increase the metabolism and encourage weight loss. Some reports have stated that they help boost the mood and energy level, even helping with depression which I suffer from. At this point, nothing else seems to be working so I figured I'd pay the $225 for the initial visit (includes EKG, BMI, Weight, Measurements, B-12 injection, appetite suppressant and consultation with medical doctor and weight loss counselor.) After that is it $50/week for the injection, appetite suppressant and counseling.
Has anyone had any success with this type of thing? Or does anyone have any advice at all?