I have been trying my hardest to make it a good day, but it's just one of those days. I know we all have them and boy do I hate them. It started this morning when my alarm didn't go off, I was late by two hours. How I loved the extra sleep, but I had so much planned. I didn't let that get to me today, went on with my normal morning. Things happen, and I can't get bent out of shape because of them.
Then after a long hectic morning, I had to reschedule my doctor's appointment until Thursday at nine, because I just have way to many important things to do tommorow for school, and I just can't miss it.
Well today when I went to the gym, hoping to get some of my stress off and to get some more energy that I had been lacking I decided to go to the sauna. I rarely do, because im always in a time crunch, but today I arrived early for class and I decided what the heck im going to relax a little. So I get in and there were two other girls in their talking, and talking. It didn't bother me that they were talking out loud, just some of the things, really pushed me over the edge. They started talking about how its sad it is to see overweight women working out. One of the girls commented this, "they are destined to be fat forever." Goodness, I just wanted to slap them, I couldn't believe it, after five minutes of hearing what a perfect body was to them, I no longer payed attention to how hot it really was. I was already fuming with anger. Then they went on about how they think its funny that some women can only run for like five minutes. That right there, pissed me off to no end. I don't ever get mad, but I stood up with sweat dripping and I said "It doesn't matter if they can only run for five minutes, so what if they only run for two minutes. We all have different levels, and different bodies. We have to adjust and train our bodies to run faster, and longer. At least they are trying and pushing through. At least they are actually making a difference in their health, and most important they are not giving up. That is better than you two just talking away in a sauna and calling it your workout, next time you start to talk about other people, just remember karma comes back to you in ways you never wished it did." I walked out with fumes coming out of my ears, and went to my workout.
Im not going to let anyone damper my day, especially with talk like that. I finally got the guts to say something to girls like those. Well anyways, im off to bed. Even though I had a sluggish day, I didn't give up, life is too short to be upset and sad.
I hope everyone had a wonderful Tuesday, and I hope you all have a wonderful Wednesday!!!!!
Posted By: hey alexia
Comments to this post:
03/28/2007 00:29
wow, thank you!
alexia- sorry to hear you had a rough one, but I am totally stoked to hear how you handled the sauna situation. i hope that i would have had the nerves to say the exact same thing (which is what I would have been thinking regardless of what I said or did). when I'm in the gym and see people sweating away, i think good for them! - it takes a lot of courage to go sweat in front of other people - and that's WITHOUT any overt judgements being made about how anyone looks. it's people like those girls that make others self-conscious about appearance. *ugh* take care girlie, tomorrow is a new day!
Alexia-it's great that you did what you did in the sauna! I'm sure that those comments really dug deep into you, and I am sure that many others on this site besides me would have been upset to hear it as well.
I don't think those women understood what you meant and where you've come from, but isn't great to know that when they were talking, they weren't directing it towards you! (They probably have no clue how hard you've worked to get here!)
Good for you! As I was reading your post I was thinking "I hope she said something, I hope she said something" and I was cheering inside when you did! ( I would have cheered out loud if I was home but I was the UA library!)
Yep, at least they are there making the effort to change their lifestyle for the better. Just stepping in the gym, making a public declaration that they are trying is a big accomplishment for some. What really annoys me is when I see the girls (probably the same types that sit in the sauna as their workout) on the elliptical or stair climber with bad body mechanics with their cell phones to their ears.
Anyway, have a great evening!
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03/28/2007 08:05
Oh My Goodness
See - I KNEW those skinny girls were laughing at me!! Seriously though - good on you for speaking your mind. You are a star! There are bigger women than me at my gym now, and I applaud them for getting in there to sweat - that's all that matters - not what you look like, just that you're getting that heart rate up.
Anyway, sorry your day started out rough - I certainly hope today is better. You are so right though - "life is too short to be upset and sad" - I need to make that my mantra!
I'm glad that you said something to them. Hopefully, they heard what you said and may think twice about doing it again. I doubt it, but I can dream right?
I'm fairly athletic, even though I got fat for a while. LOL! But anyway, I get so annoyed by skinny women that brag that they are thin, but they are so out of shape it's ridiculous. I have friends like that..yes they fit into a 4/5, but they don't have an ounce of muscle tone and couldn't do more than 2 push ups. That blows me away.
Anyway, I hope that today is a better day for you.
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03/28/2007 10:50
Those women
are very close minded. I'm glad you got the guts to say something. If I was in there, I would never know what they said because I'm deaf. But I was hearing, I would be fuming in my ears too.
I'm not surprised that there are people who says things like that and I'm one of those who couldn't run for 5 minutes. It took me almost a year to be able to run 15 minutes. My goal is to be able to run for 30 minutes and I'm already half way there.
I was able to run 15 minutes because of people like you here on EP who are very supportive and friendly. Coming here has been the best thing I needed for my weight loss, not the people at the gym. They can't stop me and I won't let them.
Thank you so much for spouting off as I am one of those fat women who work out. I never make fun of people because anyone who is doing anything whatsoever has made the step towards caring about themselves. I am so glad there are people like you who speak up. Keep up the great work. I see from your charts that you have lost a lot and that is very inspirational to me.
Clearly they have never had a weight problem. When I see overweight people at the gym, I always look at them with admiration and hope they will succeed. In fact, I hope they will stick it out and not disappear after only a month (like many people do). Way to go for giving them a voice!
Angel
PS don't you just HATE it when you want to relax in a quiet sauna all alone and there is already someone there? Ugh!
For standing up for the rest of us. They probably never had been fat or over weight or unhealthy to begin with and I am glad you gave them hell. I could only imagine what their faces looked like.
((((LOUD STANDING OVATION))))))
Sorry you had a crappy day. (((HUGS))) but that ear slapping y ou gave them must have at least put a smile on your face.
Nobody should talk about anybody like that! Thank you for standing up for all of us on EP. Even those at goal! We all have worked hard to be where we are whether it's goal, half-way, or just starting. Oh, girl, I'm so proud of you!
I am so glad you stood up to them. To many times people are quick to judge based on appearances when alot of the times what they have on the inside is a heck of alot uglier then the extra 20-100 lbs someone may be carrying around with them!
I really hate close-minded people. Good for you! They needed to hear that. I hope they're never in the position where they are over weight and fighting to get it off.
I wish I had the courage to say the things that you said to those girls. Girls like that are what makes it so hard to go to the gym and work out.
When I go to the gym and I see all these pretty little preppy sorority girls I get so jealous and I get really down. I feel like they are looking at me and judging me because I'm not as small as they are. I have come to accept that I will never be a size 2 and that as long as I'm healthy and I'm happy with where I'm at that is all that truly matters.
So thank you for standing up for all of us who are working hard to get to where we want to be. You're an inspiration to a lot of us!
I hate when I hear people talking like that. When I was going to WW last year, there was a young gal that made goal (she had like 25 lbs to lose) and after she made goal...everything that she said was soooooo repulsive that people just started rolling their eyes. She just thought that it was so easy, everyone should lose lbs a week, that avoiding foods that trigger your eating is easy, etc, etc... She made one woman that had lost like 100 lbs in 2 years feel like she should have been to goal already and she still was WI at about 300. I feel sorry for people like that because fat people can lose weight, but those girls will always be self centered and absorbed to the point that they will not see what they are actually missing. I, too, have been on the skinny and now fat sides of the fence. And, trying to lose 60 lbs is NOT EASY!!!!! And, KUDOS to you for standing your ground and saying something!
I just got finished reading some of your blogs and looking at your pictures! What an amazing weight loss journey you have had! You are such an inspiration!!! I can't wait until I get to my finish line! You look absolutely beautiful and should be so proud of yourself! Huge Congratulations!!!
I am so glad that you stood up for all of us!!! They really don't understand what it is like. I have a friend like that too. It is very frustrating to hear things like that. Way to go. I am sure that you had a good smile on your face after that. Did you get to see their expression? Good Job. Hope that you have a better day tomorrow.
Oh my gosh, that is horrible of those girls. I would be angry too. But you told them! I hope they got something out of what you said. Either way you said what needed to be said.
Thanks for checking up on me! I have been lazy with EP this week.
for standing up to those girls and putting them in their place. Really that just disgusts me that there really are people out there who think that way let alone say it out loud.
My husband always says that no-one is watching at the gym and that everyone is there for the same reasons - to either get fit/healthy or maintain their health.
R U KIDDING ME - people clearly do watch and talk - and Im just greatful that you being a person that has accomplished soo much decided to finally stand up and open their eyes to reality!!!
Sorry you had a crappy day but hopefully tomorrows a better day. Good luck at the docs office.
of you for standing up to those girls!! It's amazing to me how some people think. I'm sure they had some insecurities of their own and handle it by talking about others. So sad!! You did good girl, because I would've said a couple of S@#!^@&!*!((*~&!(~*&!!!!! HAHAHAHAHA!!
Glad you didn't let it mess up your day! Silent prayers for the thoughts above!! hehehe!
Alexia, you are my hero!!!! Way to go for standing up for all of us! I bet they were ugly girls anyway. No matter how "beautiful" someones physical apperance is, if they have a hateful heart or personality, it will show through. I'm so glad you stood up to them and that you didn't let their ugly attitude ruin your day!
You really did stand up for all of us here at EP. When I read your blog I clapped! I just want to thank you for your kind words, your encouragement and that great attitude that rubs off on everyone who reads your blogs (including me!)
You were right when you said that God has a plan for our lives. Thanks so much for the confirmation. Have a healthy and happy week Alexia!
