07/03/2011 13:47
Loving a person, hating the gossip.
Dear Friends,
If there is one thing I despise, one thing I am probably overly sensitive to, it's gossip! I suppose I've been the victim of gossip more than I've dished it out, probably because at an early age I somehow attracted those mean girl kinds of people. Add to that, I'm in the professional position at my work and so when people don't like or agree with a business decision I choose to not talk bad, or tell the REAL truth to get even. I choose to allow the venom go out like feathers in the wind. I have learned that in life there will be trouble so unless you are a completely doormat, willing to put up with everyone and anyone's junk contaminating your life - you will be despised at some point. Of course, now I know better and instead of making me super sad, it usually just makes me run from that person as fast as I can. That's the gift of running into gossipers - you know to run because the very next person they will be slaughtering with their words may well be you. I no longer try to be their close friend. Instead I pray for them and hope that someone really, really close to them will mirror back their evilness in their tongue. Did you know the Bible says the tongue is hardest to tame? That we can tame big old elephants and tigers better than our tongue? That we are born with it ready to go and fire away? Want more on this? Check out this talk from Andy Stanley. It costs one dollar it is the best, most insightful, and sometimes funny take on the tongue and the damage it can do. The mp3 download is all of $1.00!
You see, what I've learned is that gossip says more about the person doing it than of whom they are speaking . I may talk more on this later, but if you really want to see the effects of gossip and trying to fit in so you "go along" with the gossiper, read this fiction book:
She Makes It Look Easy
In case you are wondering what made me put this on a weight loss blog let me ask you a question.
Do you find yourself eating when you are angry?
Do you use your mouth- EATING FOOD - to say what you choose not to say as you take the high road with a person?
How do you process the angry, hurt feelings while you take the high road?
Are you spending time in prayer, journalling, listening to inspiration audiobooks and reading to feed you mind with the good things, the things the will bring you through the mess with a MESSAGE?
If you have trouble processing the anger while taking the high road, try having some time every day to journal, to process the hurt. Lately I take walks while listening to this, especially Chapter 9, and I'm amazed at the healthy, positive, and spiritual wisdom I glean. You see, everything is spiritual and there is a lesson that can make us stronger. I also suggest this one on boundaries and most overweight people have serious people pleaser issues. My biggest fear, for the longest time, was the someone would not like me. Guess what? Some people don't like me, or agree with a decision I've made because of how it affects their own selfish desires, and I'm still standing!
If there is one thing I despise, one thing I am probably overly sensitive to, it's gossip! I suppose I've been the victim of gossip more than I've dished it out, probably because at an early age I somehow attracted those mean girl kinds of people. Add to that, I'm in the professional position at my work and so when people don't like or agree with a business decision I choose to not talk bad, or tell the REAL truth to get even. I choose to allow the venom go out like feathers in the wind. I have learned that in life there will be trouble so unless you are a completely doormat, willing to put up with everyone and anyone's junk contaminating your life - you will be despised at some point. Of course, now I know better and instead of making me super sad, it usually just makes me run from that person as fast as I can. That's the gift of running into gossipers - you know to run because the very next person they will be slaughtering with their words may well be you. I no longer try to be their close friend. Instead I pray for them and hope that someone really, really close to them will mirror back their evilness in their tongue. Did you know the Bible says the tongue is hardest to tame? That we can tame big old elephants and tigers better than our tongue? That we are born with it ready to go and fire away? Want more on this? Check out this talk from Andy Stanley. It costs one dollar it is the best, most insightful, and sometimes funny take on the tongue and the damage it can do. The mp3 download is all of $1.00!
You see, what I've learned is that gossip says more about the person doing it than of whom they are speaking . I may talk more on this later, but if you really want to see the effects of gossip and trying to fit in so you "go along" with the gossiper, read this fiction book:
She Makes It Look Easy
In case you are wondering what made me put this on a weight loss blog let me ask you a question.
Do you find yourself eating when you are angry?
Do you use your mouth- EATING FOOD - to say what you choose not to say as you take the high road with a person?
How do you process the angry, hurt feelings while you take the high road?
Are you spending time in prayer, journalling, listening to inspiration audiobooks and reading to feed you mind with the good things, the things the will bring you through the mess with a MESSAGE?
If you have trouble processing the anger while taking the high road, try having some time every day to journal, to process the hurt. Lately I take walks while listening to this, especially Chapter 9, and I'm amazed at the healthy, positive, and spiritual wisdom I glean. You see, everything is spiritual and there is a lesson that can make us stronger. I also suggest this one on boundaries and most overweight people have serious people pleaser issues. My biggest fear, for the longest time, was the someone would not like me. Guess what? Some people don't like me, or agree with a decision I've made because of how it affects their own selfish desires, and I'm still standing!