Jumping the 4am fitness train.... choo choo All aboard!!

Had a pretty lazy weekend. Did a lot of napping during the day & ended up wide awake at night. Spent those quiet hours surfing the net & reading blogs. Last night, or this morning I should say, I attempted to sneak into bed around 4am. I say sneak because I was trying NOT to wake up my dh. Too late! Seems he'd been laying there in bed awake for quite awhile wondering what I was up to. Somehow, he managed to convince himself that my newfound interest in my health & weight meant that I found a new man! Wha?? (Wait, is he rich & handsome?  -JUST KIDDING DEAR EP FRIENDS, JUST KIDDING) I was stunned and angry! There were some angry words, stupid accusations, wounded defensive retorts, sullen doubt filled silences, etc... Finally, we were both too keyed up to just keep laying there, so we grabbed our gear & went for a quick-paced 2 mile walk. I finally got through to him that I'm not doing this for him, for any other guy, for any other reason than I am sick of being unhealthy & fat! I want a life! I want to be here to see my kids grow up. I want to see grandbabies SOME FAR FAR day in the future (LOL). I don't want to be short of breath, short on energy, worried that I'll die from morbid obesity like my father did. Of course, he agrees with me on everything. He's already working on the 10k training with me -but last week we took off for my health & his project deadline. We've said it so many times in the past, have started so many diets, & have failed so many times. He's seeing a difference in MY attitude this time, seeing a difference in my body, seeing a motivation that didn't exist before, & it scares him. He's been struggling with motivation, energy, overeating junk, etc... Sure, I can understand that, we all do! I struggled with motivation & energy this past week, that's no secret. LOL The difference this time, compared to every failed attempt, I didn't quit! Sure, had some bad days, made some bad choices, even trashed last week's goals, but I did what I could, kept my eye on the right track, even if I wasn't exactly on it.

I explained that I draw my motivation & inspiration from these blogs and by having my goals written out as concrete reminders of what I need to do. Yes, I can talk about weight loss with him, but I need the extra support I get  here. He's not a people person, so I guess it's a little bizarre for him. He is, however, very competitive and can't stand admitting failure. Gee, that's where I got that from! Knew it had to rub off from somebody because I always was a 'go with the flow' girl in my youth. We discussed my goals for this week. By the time he left for work, we were both calmer and thoughtful. About an hour later, he called me. He'd been thinking about it & decided maybe seeing his goals written out would help him with the daily motivation. He's onboard!

I know he wants to change, none of us want to be fat! I am  not 100% sure he's motivated for the right reasons, but I guess only he'll know that for certain. In the meantime, I'll take whatever motivation I can get! Lots of times we start a journey for one reason, then find a whole new world & reasons for continuing. I am happy he's onboard. Changing your lifestyle is so much easier with your partner's support!

Best wishes everybody!

ps: a fast-paced walk is a great way to end an argument! We were breathing hard, not talking silly-nilly, concentrating on the path, and enjoying the endorphins rush!

Good Job

I know how hard that is.  My BF keeps telling me he is scared i am going to lose weight, become some hot young thing (i am significantly younger than he is) and leave him for someone else.  At first it used to bother and scare me that he worried about those things.  I didn't want him to worry or be scared of that and i didn't want to fight him every step of the way.  But i was doing this for me and my health and IF ANYTHING to make him see me better - i know he loves me, he tells me he is beautiful and sexy all the time, but i don't believe it myself so that is a strain.  And when we go out i feel like i am some fat loser that people look at us as a couple and think oh my god he can do so much better.

I don't want to think that way.  I want to be proud of myself and i want us to be a cute couple and go out without me worrying people are staring.

So this for you and be proud!  I am glad you finally got through to him and he is on board.  My BF keeps saying he will and then doesn't...eventually i will just stop asking...

aww!!

Good for you, that your doing this for your self.

Are our husbands related?!

My husband, as much as I love him, thinks that I am looking for another man.  He doesn't like me changing myself and doesn't like the fact that I am looking good and feeling better about myself.  He never says anything negative to me about my weight and says he loves me no matter how big or small I am.  But I think he is a bit threatened by my loss.  I have lost 52lbs and have gone from a size 24 to a 16 (just got into that size!) and he  thinks that some other guy will come along and he will go bye bye.  I can't believe what men come up with.  My husband does need to lose weight, 30-50lbs, but I don't say anything about it and he doesn't do anything about it.  He complains sometimes and he even says that we all need to start eating better but he is the last one to do so.  If I say anything he feels like I am putting him down so I am just waiting for him to make the decision to better his health.  I do make healthy dinners but I can't control his snacking. 

I draw a lot of motivation from these blogs too.  I am so happy I found out about EP because it has helped tremedously! 

Keep up the good work!

I guess I am pretty lucky

My husband is really supportive. A little TOO supportive sometimes, if you know what I mean. It is really great that you worked it out and are training for the 10K together. I can't wait for your race report. Hopefully it will be more inspiring than my triathlon performance. :o(

I'm sorry.

Ummmm and I can think if better ways to make up for arguments than a WALK!!  LOL - try S**  ;-)~

Ummmm I am also going to keep my mouth shut.  Been there done that with the accusations about getting thinner, etc.  Good luck and keep going for you!!

Arguments

Yeah, walking is a great way to end an argument.  AND you burned som calories!  Go you!

You Go Girl

You got the right attitude "doing it for yourself"....that is one way to be successful. 

Your dh being jealous could be taken as a compliment and I think that is how I would take it.  Just keep doing what you are doing and don't let any of the small stuff get you down.  Don't ever give up.......if you mess up......pick yourself up.....then move forward.    If you need to take a break from things, by all means, take a break, but only a break, then get right back on.

Blessings to you and I know you will be successful.  Chargail