One of the things I love about this venue is that I can share my thoughts, successes and setbacks, and offer and receive support. As a matter of fact, y'all are the only ones who even know I'm trying (again...) to lose weight. It seems like in the past when I've talked to others about it, everyone has their own way of losing weight and it's always better than the way I'm doing it. Funny thing is, they're just as overweight as I am, so is there way really better? When I HAVE been successful in the past, there was one particular friend who acted pissed off at me every time she saw me. I had lost 32 pounds and everyone was complimenting me (even though that was only half of my goal), and she would be annoyed about it and started being snarky to me. So I'm no longer her friend. Who needs it? Friends support each other, and again, that's what I'm loving so much about these boards and blogs.
So...being in the 21st century, I can still vent and learn from y'all. It's kind of weird, though. I haven't even told my husband. For the first time in my life, I am truly doing this for ME. Not because my friends are ore I think my husband would like it, but just because it's the right thing for me to do at this time.
Now my question to each of you is, are any of you facing this lifestyle change in secret to keep your sanity?
~Rena~
Posted By: RenaHamp2K
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10/27/2007 15:39
Secret
I don't tell many people... because I don't want everyone scrutinizing every piece of food I put in my mouth. I know how much of what I can eat and I'm not perfect. You know? There are a few people (my BF, my mother) that I know will be supportive so I don't mind telling them. But honestly I think different things work for different people.
Congrats on delving into this and it looks like you're doing great so far. I'm so glad that you joined our 30 pounders group! Plus, everyone on EP is really awesome and supportive. :)
Keep up the great work. I'll be checking in on you!
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10/28/2007 01:04
That's great
I had that experience too - to finally lose weight for ME. You've done great so far and I know you'll reach that goal this time! Have a great day!
Cause if I do I get HIS advice and he nags at me constantly about it and then I get upset and don't want to do it. He doesn't get it that I have to do this my own way; otherwise, he's an extremely good man. He's trying to help in his own way but it makes me crazy, so I just don't tell him anymore. :)
and am full of admiration for anyone who can. Sometimes I WISH I did, because all those comments you made about how other people react to our weight plans and weight loss rang so true with me.
I always find it is the unsolicited advice from various colleagues/friends/ well-wishers that is the worst, I feel guilty about it and I think it is a pride thing but it DRIVES ME UP THE WALL.
Well done on your loss so far, looking forward to seeing more of your blog - it's really interesting and well-written.
Thanks so much for showing me that I am not the only one going through these emotions by myself. It's comforting to know that we're not in this alone, even if the best support we can find is on the other end of a keyboard instead of face to face.
Just know that I will root for you and your successes! So go git 'em!
