I don't want to be a super model - I just want to be this lady.
Well, it's been about a month since I've been here and nothing much has changed. I still have all the same stats pretty much, with the same ol excuses.
I decided to write again today because I was in the bagel store getting lunch.
It wasn't a bad lunch at all - much better than a lunch from the burger joint next door. But still a fast food lunch. Anyway, I'm waiting over at the soda machine for my order and I notice a table of 30 to 40 year old men sitting nearby.
The 3 of them were just sitting there paying no attention to me at all. Which is fine - I mean I am not here to say that they were doing something mean to me or made a snarky remark or anything, BUT...
As I have said before in this blog I have been fat for most of my adult life. Only for about 2 years did I live the glorious life of a thin, hot 20 something year old. And because of my past experience I KNOW how men react to a pretty woman pretty much anywhere.
Now I'm not talking about the way guys act in bars when they are trying pick girls up - but just when you are in a shop or a park or any other public place. Men treat you - different. When you're fat, they aren't mean to you or anything usually (I mean I'm just talking about passing someone in a grocery store isle or something like that) but they treat you the same way they treat their mom or their sister or their grandma.
They treat you like a "Mamm".
When you are thin - men, young or old, put a skip in their step to open a door for you. Not that they wouldn't do it before, they just wouldn't put a little speed in their walk to get there faster. Old men wink at you, more working guys call you "sweetie", if you reach for something on a high shelf - magically a guy appears to get it down for you.
They treat you like a "Miss".
I'm not saying that these guys are jerks normally or anything, but I think that they are somehow wired in their brain to do these things. I don't think that the old guy at drug store who called me "Honey" wants to get in my pants or anything like that at all - I really think their brain kind of goes, "Ooooh - girl pretty."
I know thats very simplistic of me - but that was the best way that I could think of to describe the different feeling I got from men in general when I was thin. And I think that women who have been thin for a long time and then become fat later in life don't notice really, I think they just think that they are getting older.
And at the bagel shop those men wouldn't have looked up at me if my hair was on fire. I just didn't tune into their pretty-girl radar. Just like a long time ago I when I was like 24 and single I tried and experiment. I went to that web site - Hot or Not.com and I put in some pictures. I put in one full body when I was fat, one close up when I was fat, one close up thin, and one full body thin. The results were interesting, but expected. On the two heavy pictures I averaged about a 2 or 3 on a scale of 1 to 10. On the thin pictures though, I averaged a solid 8 on the face shot and a 8/9 on the full body shots (this was in regular clothes, but fashionable and well fitting). These stats all came from men AND women. It's amazing people's perceptions of you just because of your weight.
I just want to get back to like the woman in the picture. She is not at all what I would call a galmour gal or anything like that - she just looks nice, her clothes fit well, and she just, well, looks nice and healthy.
I want to be back to at least a 6 or 7 - is that so wrong?
I could do that, right?
Rachel
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P.S. And I just want to say I love you to my husband, Terry. Who still runs to open doors for me. :)