So I was mentioning yesterday about the Christmas party.
Terry's family isn't very large so at Christmas time we get together once a year with this group of women that Ginny (Terry's mom) was friends with way back in grade school. First it just started out as them and their husbands - but then everyone started to have children and it was harder to get together. So the designated one day a year, I think its like the 3rd sunday in December or something like that, that they get together to see everyone and all the kids, and it's called "The Childrens Party".
Well, Terry and I have been together a little over 5 years now I think and even in that short of a time the party has swelled to include all of the original people, plus their kids, those kids spouses, and now every year there seems to be more and more grandchildren. I think just over the last two years there have been like 8 new kids to include!
It's a fun party and the people are really nice, but these are not people that any of us really communicate with on a regular basis. I think the best way to describe this party is like having your high school reunion every year. It's like a friendly competition to see who is doing well or what's going on in everyones life. It's not mean spirited or anything, just more like a chance to brag about your family and be proud of them.
Now I guess this would be just like any other families Christmas party, but this one has one difference. A lot of these families are VERY well off. I mean like living in small mansions well off. And for me this change from going to christmas parties where there are card tables shoved in corners to fit everyone and football games and very loud games of Trival Pursuit going on - to being at the (as I call it) the 'Kennedy Compound' is very odd.
I guess Terry doesn't see it the same way I do because he grew up with these kids and actually went to school with a lot of them. Heck, most of them were just living in normal houses until recently really. But when groups of people who really aren't even technically related to you do things like throw you a engagement party on their back patio overlooking a lake, beside the vanishing edge pool, that is catered, with a bar, and tablecloths and orchids and signature cocktails - well, having parties with these people can get to be a little overwhelming.
Like I said - these people are all very, very nice and friendly - but I always kind of feel like the Beverly Hillbillies when we go to see them. We can't afford designer clothes or fancy cars and I can feel that when we step in the door. And I guess having a weight issues kind of goes with that too. At least with all the 'kids' I think that Terry and I are about the only ones who have weight issues. And in a way that makes me feel like I stick out even more. And with the girls there is the clothes - I know that Nicole (Terry's sister) and I dread finding something to wear to these things. It seems like everyone knows what to wear but us! One year all the girls will come in fabulous sundresses with awesome heels and we show up in jeans and a sweater. Then the next year the opposite happens and we look overdressed in clearance dresses from Dressbarn.
I'm sure that I am the only one who notices it - but just once I would like to be able to go to stuff like this (or any other occasion for that matter, weddings, showers) and feel like I look NICE - and not like I had to try to find the least awkward, appropriate thing in my closet. This year I just want to be able to go out and look around for a dress that I LIKE - not just settle for what I can find that will fit me. :(
I'm sure you have all felt like this at least once before right?
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