Lacking motivation

Well I've "recovered" from Easter but I still just can't seem to get fired up to lose any weight.  I hate to say that, because so many other people here are doing so well, and I don't want to be a downer!  But I have to be honest.  I mentioned before that my initial motivation was a guy, and now that there's no hope with him (in fact, he's seeing someone else!) I just feel deflated.  I WANT to want to do this just for me, but that seems to not be enough.  I can eat healthier but to actually lose weight takes focus and determination that I haven't been able to muster up. 

I do find it motivating to read other peoples' blogs and I plan to keep doing that, and waiting to see if I get inspired somehow.

i know how you feel

Hon, I know exactly how you feel.  I used to always do everything for a guy... weight loss, personality change, etc.  I'd go to a club or party and if he-of-the-moment wasn't there, I'd be totally bored.  I didn't even realize it, it was so much a part of who I was. 
It takes time to really do things for yourself, and not for someone else.  There's so much a perception in our society that there is something wrong with us, especially women, if our motivation is based on other people, but frankly, its very human.  It *is* healthier to be doing things for yourself - you will find your life a lot less stressful and within your control - but its not easy.  I don't know anyone who can do that without having to work on it.

The good news is that I have full confidence that you can.  Just admitting that you're weight loss effort was for him is a big step.  I don't know how into the whole self-help book stuff, but one book that really opened my eyes and really changed things for me is the Enneagram series, by Riso-Hudson.  There's a lot of other books, but none have spoken so true to me.  It sounds hokey, but helped me understand my motivation, where the gaps were in understanding myself. 

(Not that that in itself will change your life.  But for me, it helped me identify what was going on and helped me see what specifically to work on.  I feel that now I'm in a much better place, making serious changes in my life for no one but me - changes that will last.)

However you choose to find your way, I am fully confident that you can.  Oh, and just don't think of weight loss as a chore, but rather a journey.  If you're not feeling up to working out, do something fun!  You'll still burn those calories - and its better than nothing.

*Hugs*
Serena  

hey, i miss you!

I know that you're feeling unmotivated, but come back and blog about your unmotivation.  You might find it cathartic.  Besides, I miss you!

Serena