Gosh, now I feel bad and wonder if I did the wrong thing. No, it can't be the wrong thing. I chose my sister to be my maid of honor over my best friend. The reason being that my sister is also like a best friend to me. We're extremely close. I hang out with her more often than I do my own friends, we talk on the phone the most and she's my sister. Kat is my best friend but we aren't as close anymore and rarely see each other. That shouldn't discredit our friendship (we've been best buds since 3rd grade, holy crap) but I think overall my sister would be the best choice. I'm feeling bad and awkward that Kat expected to be the maid of honor and I had to tell her it's going to Malia.
Am I wrong on this one? It's such a close call but it feels wrong to not have my sister be the maid of honor under these circumstances.
I haven't been exercising, either. Too much stress this week. I came home this afternoon and was stressed about the prospect of exercising so I went straight to the bag of pistachios Mike brought home 2 days ago. Then I just got off the phone with Kat after telling her she wasn't going to be my maid of honor and once again went straight to the pistachios. Stress eating is a bummer.
The condo won't work out, either. We discovered just how little money we make in comparison to the buyer's market in the Seattle area. Cotinuing to rent and save up money makes more sense at this point in our lives. Another bummer.
Posted By: Leanne_Nalani
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04/12/2007 23:32
Sorry
Sorry about all the disappointments... Don't let it get you off track though. You've come too far! Whatever you feel is right is the right thing. It's your wedding. Hope things get better...
You have to do what's right for you. I had my sister as my matron of honor because she's my sister, afterall. I would hope that your friend can understand that. I mean, you can't break that sister bond. Even though my sister and I aren't that close, we are STILL sisters, you know? Surely things will calm down shortly. And remember, exercise reduces stress. Just a thought......I'm sure you didn't want to hear that. Oh, also, if you're exercising, you can't eat pistachios. Right? Get back on that wagon, girl. You've come too far to let it slip now. I'm sure you're not slipping, just saying.
U did fine. I picked my sis over my best friend. It always works out.. Just remember it is YOUR day!!! =-) I honestly really appreciate your inspiring words. Thank you for all your support! I think you are a wonderful lady!! =-) It is truly a challenge to be honest every day, but I have to be. I REALLY have to be honest with you all! Have a wonderful day! Thank you again! Love, Jen
Stick with what your heart and gut are telling you. If your friend is a true one, she'll understand. I'm sure you'll find a way of including her in your special day.
i agree that this is your wedding and so it is up to you who you think the maid of honor should be. i have heard from so many friends about how hard it was to choose their bridesmaids, maids of honor, etc., without hurting someone's feelings.
your friend will understand even if she initially feels disappointed b/c she was expecting to be the maid of honor. you can't control her expectations and i doubt you gave her any reason to expect that. i guess what i'm saying is to try not to feel guilty about kat feeling badly and focus on what a happy event this is going to be! and hide those pistachios until then!
I would go with what you are feeling inside. I know its a hard choice but you should go with your gut feeling. I know when I get married I will choose my sister over my best friend, just because we are so close and I love her. I know its going to be hard for her, but if she really is a good friend she should understand. Don't stress over it too much, I think you made the right choice. Listen to your heart.
I was catching up on your posts and Im so glad to hear you had a wonderful time in Disneyland!!! It looks like you had a blast and that is all that matters. I do agree with you, California Adventure is not the best, I do however love the Hollywood Tower Hotel, otherwise Disneyland is way much better. Im glad you had fun! I know just what you mean with eating, their is so many good places to eat, I could go crazy! Don't worry about it, as long as you had fun that is all that matters, plus it's not like you do this all the time!
I think you need to take some time for you, hopefully this weekend you can do that. Hopefully things can start to settle down and be less stressful. I hope you have a wonderful Friday!!!!
Im glad you are back home, I missed reading your posts!!!
P.S. Sorry to hear about your finger! Hope its feeling better!
your sis for MH... I have been married almost 25 years... had sis MH and sis in law and furture sis in law in my parety... never figured that I did it wrong....
stress eating NOT GOOD thing....rememeber LOOK AFER #1=U
Look out for you, Mike and the family. Sure, your friend may be bummed, but she's got to understand! Hang in there, get a grip... you have a year to plan this, you don't want to undo the hard work due to planning a wedding.
I think you've made the right choice, and I would be surprised if your friend didn't understand that. My best friend and I grew up talking about weddings and how we would be each others maid of honour etc, but as it is we rarely see each other now - and although that doesn't discredit the friendship, I would completely understand if she chose her sister instead.
Try not to worry about things too much, I'm sure it will all work out. xx
I think you did the right thing. Your sister should come first, she is family. Your friend will understand in time.. :-)
I know what you mean about stress. You are doing great though, hang in there this will pass and before you know it you will be exercising again. Just take that first step, even a few steps add up and will make you feel better.
One thing you have to remember is that you grew up with your sister, and have probably been together since you were little, most sisters even dress up as brides and bridesmaids when they are young just for fun so it only seems natural to have your lifelong best friend as your maid of honour. My sister will always be mine when I get married because I think family is so important and your friend should understand thoroughly, I know I would if I was that friend. And anyway.. whoever you choose you know that it is going to be an AMAZING day and that everyone will love you no matter what you choose because at the end of the day it is YOUR wedding..! I hope this helps... x x x x
While your BF may be disappointed, if she is truly your BF, she will understand that ultimately, when it comes to it, blood is thickest and your sister is your sister. I think it's wonderful that you share a close bond with your sister. I'm sure that your BF will be happy for you and will be just as happy and supportive as a bride's maid as she would be as an MOH. Just make sure that you and your sister include her and make her feel a part of planning your special day and I'm sure all will turn out fine. It's not like you are leaving her out, but you had a decision to make and if it came to my BF or my sister, I would choose my sister, too. If I had one. I didn't chose my brother because he looks awful in a dress! lol
Relax and remember that your wedding is ultimately about YOU, and everyone needs to respect you and your decisions on your day!
Hi Leanne.. I was wondering if I could ask you a personal question.. do you remember the moment you decided to change your life and loose the weight? Like was it a particular comment someone said or a photo you saw? I was just interested because it must have really made you get things sorted. I understand it's personal so don't feel you have to answer if you don't want! Please reply to my blog if possible, Thanks x x x
erm...i m soooooo soz to hear that...but its ur day!!!!! u should be cheerful and DO NOT think abt that too much coz if its ur best f she would understand u and dont worry abt the weight loss either...just eat more good and healthy food!
u will be fine! have it large at that special day......show me ur wedding pis as well.. i m jealous!
But no matter what anyone else says (including me!), it is your wedding and you get to make all the calls. Your best friend may be upset about it, but you can't worry about that. If she loves you, she will understand and want what you want.
Having said that, I don't have a sister, but I would think that if I did, I would have her be a bridesmaid and choose my best friend as my maid of honor. Me and my best friend chose eachother in each of our weddings. Of course, she doesn't have a sister either. But, I have to say, I do remember her grappling with who to choose and I am positive I would have been extremely hurt if she didn't choose me. I knew, without a doubt, that I would choose her, but I did end up hurting another friend in the process. But, you can only choose one person, so obviously, someone will be hurt. It is a tough one, for sure.
You chose your sister, you are comfortable with that, and your friend will hopefully understand and won't make a big deal out of it. Maybe you can put her in charge of something special.
I think that you made the right decision... You could always have 2 maids of honor! =-) IT IS YOUR DAY. YOU CAN DO WHATEVER YOU WANT!!!! REMEMBER THAT!!!
This is a different surgery. This one bypasses the stomach. The stomach still stays alive and well. But eveything you eat dumps into your small intestine. It cuts down on the amount of time that the food is actually in your body!!
OH LEE LEE, I am SOOOOOOOOOO READY! I am just waiting until we get the insurance in place.
You're right. It could be the water retention that shrink me during the day. I wish it would stay that way everyday instead of ballooning up every once in a while heh. Hope you're having a great day!
You made the right choice and it's hard to not hurt someone in the wedding planning part of things, there can only be one MH, but like everyone else said your friend will understand.
Wedding are fun and stressful at the same time just take it one day at a time. I had hubby phoning me at my friends house every time he was looking for something at our house the day of our wedding. "Where's my watch?"..."What did you do with this or that..." Holy crap! I'm trying to get ready and he's bugging me every 5 minutes.
You will get through it and you will have a wonderful day when it arrives. Don't stress yourself. It will all work out in the end.
Hey girl! Oh wow I have so much catching up to do! First, love the picture from D-land and CONGRATS on you impending nuptials! The best rule is just to what is right for you. It is YOUR wedding. :-)
