Just got done with a run that was SUPPOSED to be a walk because I just ate but I swear, I can't stop these feet!!! They wannna run!!! (lol....Roo!!) So I did 2.3 miles....36 minutes...1 minute run/1 minute walk!!! YEAY
Tonight I had dinner with two of my fave EPers...brat and lala. :) We had a great dinner as usual...talked about our issues...eating...weight loss....motivation....and all of the other things that come with the journey and we got on the subject of self talk (shut up PAULA!!!! lol).
I don't think we realize how much we beat up on ourselves internally. I have known lala a long time and pointed out to her that she is one of the worst offenders I know!!! lol. The truth is that we are our own worst critics. And if you recorded the internal monologue that we have with ourselves and played it for others, they would be appauled at how we speak to ourselves. I guess my point is, when you are saying negative things to yourself, stop and think....would I say this to a friend??? If the answer is no....then why would we say it to ourselves?? Are we that lacking of worth that we have the right to put on the mental boxing gloves and go 10 rounds because we had too much *fillintheblank"?? Does it make us bad people because sometimes we just make bad food choices?? Uh...no. Bad people kick dogs.....they don't eat chocolate cake!!! lol. So I just wanted to touch on that subject.
We are not bad people worthy of an internal beating just because of eating foods that we believe we should not eat. We are not a number on a scale. So people, be kind to yourself. If you notice, I really try not to call myself things that I hear others call themselves all the time.... fat.... bad.... stupid... etc. And I see that all the time here. I see things like, "I am so fat" "I am so stupid for eating that" "I have been baaaaaaad today". lol.
Wouldn't it behoove us to say, "I am not where I want to be" "I will make a better choice next time" or "today was an off day for me". Would you call your best friend fat, stupid or say that they are bad people when they eat pie???
Just think about it for a while........
Especially you my dearest friend Lala.....
xoxoKBB
Posted By: agentinaction
Comments to this post:
03/21/2007 00:18
I promise I will SHUT UP
when those negative thoughts come around. I am proud of what I've accomplished so far and although I've stumbled a bit I know that with the support of friends like you I will MAKE IT. I will "bottle" our conversation this evening and bank it in my mind and carry it with me through the next two weeks. Thank you my friend :-)
We try to criticize the BEHAVIOR, not the CHILD. And yet we so easily beat up on ourselves in ways we try not to beat up on our kids. So, good point, and thanks for "pointing" it out!
Sorry I haven't been around. My life has been super crazy. I'm swimming or running (ET) every day and just haven't found time to get online. And the wireless router is down in our house so we only have internet in 1 room EEK. . what to do? LOL
You're doing great. . . WI will show fantastic results.
And as for soda. . . um. . . . starting over again, it's been tough. . DS has croup and it helps me release stress. Why is that? HELP.
I am getting my dairy. . and starting to CRAVE it. UGH!
Another one of my ep friends, kerryberry, was just pointing this out to me the other day. Seeing it again makes me think that there must be something to it!
Thanks again for the constant pep talks... they are helping.
It's funny, I would think to myself that I would just walk today because I am tired or not enough sleep etc etc and then I find myself running on the treadmill. I realized those are excuses as well and negative thoughts. We have to learn to push them aside and keep going postively. So you made a good point there. :)
Since you are a runner, if you get a chance, please stop by my friend, HighSchoolFine's blog. She really needs some pointers on staying focused while running. (She's in Iraq!!)
UMMM, that's a little bit of sarcasm, you know that, right?