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I've lost a total of 35 pounds then gained 5 back.I'm upset right now and sad because my husband and I are argueing alot.It seems the more I lose and feel good about myself the more he feels threatened or something.I'm really feeling low right now.Just yesterday I was going walking and he asked me how much weight am I planning to lose he thinks I should stop now.Gosh I thought it was up to me how I wanted to look and feel.I want to get down to 150 and he is upset about that,so then I said well even if I can lose another pant size that would be great and he got mad.I don't know what to do and feel lately he is doing all he can to help me gain instead of lose weight.Has this happened to any one else and if so how did you handle it?

Men !!

my boyfriend reacts the same! we're not arguing, but he wants me to stop, he says i'm gorgeous enough, don't need to loose more!!
i think i do, and that's what matters!
your husband, he's scared because other men are gonna look at you again, and find you attractive, he doesn't want you to flirt, or worse..
you have to tell him you love him and your "quest" won't change it.
And maybe he's just feeling "comfortable" in your relationship and doesn't want to make an effort, i mean he might fear you ask him to do the same..
what i don't understand is they should be happy to see us becoming "dream" women!!

an other thing is, as we're focusing on our diet, we spend less time taking care of them, and when we talk, we forget the sweet things, and expect them to follow anytime, and be proud of us..

i think you have to find the right balance, between your diet, and your couple.. it might not be right, it's just based on what i've noticed..
hope you both alright.x

do what you have to do

sit down and talk with him about how this is really important to you and that it doesnt change how you feel about him but you will be better with him if you are happier with yourself!!!.... its a process most people dont like to see people change... keep up the good work!!

I agree

Balance.  You'll find it in the relationship and "diet".

You can't force hub to change, so if you have been trying, lay off and just let him know you love him and nothing is going to change that.

My BF made comments about that too:  I'll get all skinny and leave him.  I am just like "no I am not, that does not interest me at all"... blah blah blah.

Sit down with him and let him know why you are doing this, what your goals are (so he knows) and how he can help you.  Yes, you do need his help.

(( HUGS ))

Men......

It probably scares him that you are gaining more confidence as you move towards your goal.......

Men need "visuals" that you are still in love with them -- forget the talking they only hear the first 3 seconds.....so do something "special" to show him how much you love him -- like sneak a note in his pants pocket -- give him a flower or favorite food -- my favorite is just to give a hug out of the blue -- do whatever will make him smile and realize that he has nothing to worry about!!!