Wow, 30 weeks?! It seems both longer than that, and not nearly that long all at once. I am down 1.8 this week, and less than 5 pounds from my 150 pound goal. I have decided to shoot for 145 as a more personal goal, but am keeping 150 as my "offical" goal weight. I think there is still plenty of fat haning out on my belly, thighs, and even upper arms that I could lose at least 10 more pounds.
So this morning I was looking through my online album of wedding pictures. Wow. WOW. It is really tough for me to see the old me. I has really bummed me out to see how huge my arms were, how round my face was, how portly my stomach was. And I know I looked good---beautiful on my wedding day. I felt beautiful. I was beautiful. But I was obese. O-BESE. And I lacked the knowledge and drive to lose weight before I walked down the aisle. And while losing weight soley for your wedding isn't the best idea, and as a friend of mine said to me "you wern't thin for the wedding, but you are and will be for the marriage, and that's way more important", I really really REALLY regret the way I look in my wedding pictures. And there is no way to change them. It was a once in a life time event, and those pictures are pictures I will look at for the rest of my life. I need to get to a point where I can see past how over weight I am, and focus on how happy DH and I were on that day. I need to use those pictures as a reminder not to let myself go down that path ever again. I also need to get dressed up with DH and get some new and improved professional pictures taken---maybe for our next anniversary? ;)
Posted By: Gvmemoment
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08/02/2006 21:39
Great Loss
Great loss again this week (but that is the norm for you anyway, but no less reason to celebrate). I totally agree with wedding pictures being hard and regretting not being thinner for my wedding. When DH and I were in the Mayan this year we got some professional pics taken on the beach and in the sunset and I'm much happier with them - not 100%, but it's a process. I think you'd be amazed at the new pics when you get them done. Anyways, great job as always, keep it up..soooo soon!!!
you can say that you were beautiful on your wedding day. overweight or not. i cannot find any pictures of myself that i consider beautiful since i put on weight. that is one of the main reasons i decided to get serious about dropping the lbs. i was tired of running from the camera and even more tired of seeing ugly pictures of myself. lol. you look beautiful. i think you are at the perfect weight for our height!
I feel the same way when I look at pictures from when we got engaged--not that they are professionally done but it was a big event and there were lots of people with cameras around . . . You are right to focus on how happy you and your DH were that day, and how the fact that you are taking care of yourself will make your marriage even better. I also like to think about how DF thought I was beautiful and wanted to marry me even when I hated the way I looked--that's something worth cherishing even if we don't need them to look past the extra weight anymore.
You are so close to the official goal!! I'm hoping to catch back up to you this week but don't wait up!
You may not weigh less than I do, but you've got 4 inches on me! I mean to catch up to you because you are within 5 of your WW goal and 10 of your personal goal--I'm hoping to be back in that range on Sunday but I've gotta make it through the last 3 days of this week first. :) Not that this is a race--I'm just hoping that following you will pull me across the goal line! I've been so close for so long... I don't know what changed this week but I feel good again. So, skinny vibes to both of us!
I was 5 months pregnant when I was married, so I was big everywhere. I was overweight when I got pregnant, so in my wedding pictures, I look okay. I enjoyed my wedding and felt beautiful and special, but when I saw the pictures, I didn't like the way I looked. My husband and I plan on taking pictures for our 5th anniversary next year. I'll have to buy something new, since my dress is too big. I think you should take another picture on your anniversary as well. And don't be sad about your wedding photos, just be happy about how far you have come
When I first read your post earlier today, it struck such a nerve that I was too emotional to respond. So, I'm back. I, too, have a really hard time looking at my wedding pics and haven't shared them with family. It's not that they're all terrible, but it makes me squirm to look at them, so I tend to keep putting the job off. I can ALWAYS think of something else that needs doing.
I SO want to retake some pictures with my dress, but can't justify the expense. Plus, it just feels dishonest. I knew ahead of time that I needed to lose the weight, but I didn't think I could take on THAT project and the wedding planning at the same time.
I'm not that much into pictures. I didn't really care about the photographer at the wedding, I just knew I was supposed to hire one. I didn't want it videotaped (I don't "believe in that"--how weird am I?), but my neice ended up videotaping the wedding without my knowledge. That's another story.
Before my wedding day, I was upset that I was going to have these fat pictures of me forever. When we look at old pictures of relatives (who are now dead), what do we see? their wedding photograph. For generations to come, I will be a fat bride. That was depressing--but I'm over that now. In those "olden days" photography was rare. There wereonly 1 or 2 pictures of each relative, so the wedding photos were very important. It's just not that way anymore. You can take pictures of yourself everyday of your life if you wish.
BTW, that picture of you is gorgeous. I would be proud to have people look at that photo.
Getting the pictures taken should be fun... but more than anything, you should keep your old pictures to remind you of how far you've come. Yes, everyone wants a gorgeous wedding picture, but just think of showing it to people, and them saying, "Wow, you've lost so much weight!"
Congrats on all your success... I can't believe how much you've lost. I mean, I've been seeing you from a week-to-week basis, and have been constantly impressed by your progress, but sometimes it takes looking at the whole picture to see the really amazing accomplishment!
