I figure I should tell everyone someone about me. I am 23 years old and I have a 17 month old son named Shawn. I live with my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years. He has 2 other children who hate me because I am the other women, even though they have not been together in over 11 years and they are not much older than that.
My stepmother died in January of lung cancer even though she didnt smoke, that was and is a lot to deal with.
My great grandmother died 3 weeks later. She was 83.
My father has over 600,000 and he doesnt want to help me pay for my wedding, why? I don't know. He does not like my boyfriend, why? I don't know why because he never talked to him. My father doesn't spend any time with my son but he has my stepsister's son 4 days a week and he does everything for her and her son and even calls her son his number 1 grand son, how is that supposed to make me feel? My father was never really in my life except when he had a women in his life. And now that he has all this money he helps everyone else but me out. Not trying to sound selfish, but I do need help. He is going crazy also. I don't want him to help me out with my wedding if he doesn't want to be there but so help me God, I will never talk to him again.
My mother is my rock, she helps me with paying for things, she takes my son for me at least 1 night over night a week and at least 2-3 times a week to give me "me" time. I love her. She makes up for my father.
I dropped out of high school because I couldn't deal with somethings and I was fat and everyone else was 90 pounds. I was only 160 and what I wouldnt give to be that size right now. I know it sounds stupid but I wanted to die. I cried every day in school. I was not happy. We had to take gym class everyday for half a year for 90 mins a day and I got made fun of all the time, mostly because I couldnt play volley ball. How freaking stupid was that?
I was rapped by my cousin when I was very young.. too young to know what sex was at the time. My mother was his foster mother. I don't remember too much of it but I had problems with being with people until now. The sad part is my cousin talks to me like nothing ever happened and I can't stand him.
Ok so I poured out my life.Hope I don't sound like a nut case. Thanks. I am so happy I found this site.
Has anyone ever tried any meditions for loseing weight from the dr or any kind for that matter? I am thinking about it.
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I have joined in on a little challenge, its going to be a 4 week one.
Here are my goals..
try to drink a lot more water ( I drink none now)
play outside at least an hour with my son
workout an hour every night
walk out and get the mail instead of drive
lose 15 pounds
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Posted By: ShawneysMommy
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06/04/2006 23:23
Hello ShawneysMommy...
Before I get started I was sitting here reading your post and realized...I dont' know your name...if your willing to share it that would be great...if not...that's ok too!
Now I'm going to start off with the biggest cyber hug possible to you ((((((((((HUG)))))))))))!
Great goals for the challenge. I see a lot has happened in life for you some good some not so good! But it has made you the strong person you are today! There is a weight loss site that I go on religiously and I think you would really enjoy the suport and friendship there...the link is....
It is not always about weightloss...everyone there is really nice and supportive in all aspects of life! For me it's a place I can go and just be me...voice my opinions on my obstacles and gain support! That is also where we are doing the Summer Challenge...I see you've posted your goals here, but why not post them there and read/post often and in no time you will be meeting your goals!
So tell me about Shawn...does he have your eyes? Is he starting to get into his terrible 2's? I don't have any kids, but one day I hope to have one or two! Right now my cat is a big enough handful..oh and my boyfriend Chris...he's my rock!
Well it's getting late and I have to get ready for work tomorrow, have a great evening and I hope to see you post on FSF! By the way...if you have MSN Messenger I would love to chat sometime (kittaro@hotmail.com)!
Log into extrapounds.com and clock on the little men that says friend list I believe...there you will be able to type in the persons name...for me you would type "Kittaro" and then hit submit! It should show up along the right of the page!
You can do the weightloss. You have been through so much and survived it. It is good to get things out. Sometimes weightloss is not about food or anything else but about problems we have not really dealt with.
As for your father. Sounds like you need to let that one go. Some people just don't mesh. You just focus your energies on yourself and your family. If he wants to be on the fringes of that it's his loss.
I'm sorry you are having some bad times lately. I can relate on a few levels, mainly the fact I just lost my mom to lung cancer 7 weeks ago and just buried her on Friday. She did smoke, but quit 13 years ago. Her cancer went undetected until my dad took her to the hospital because she was acting "ditsy and confused"...she had had a stoke. Anyway, after running many tests they discovered that she was already Stage 4. Diagnosed on Monday, died Thursday. A total shock. The other thing is that my parents never helped me financially or with my kids. However, they sure did help my brother. See, when you are the "responsible" one, they just figure you don't need help. Even though my brother is older than me, he has never stepped up to the plate...even now in my dads time of need. You are just going to have to be strong. Appreciate your mother and the help she gives and don't dwell on your dad. You are still so young and the relationship between our parents is always evolving. Sounds like you are doing the best you can for your son, so keep it up. Shelley
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I have had 2 breast reductions. The first one I went from a DD to a C because my doctor was afraid that a B would be too drastic. I really wanted to be a B, so he told me that if after one year I still wanted to be a B, he would do it again. So I had a second one and got down to a B. Unfortunately, I gained so much weight that I'm a C again! Bummer. But, I know what its like to have huge boobs and hate them! I was an E when I was pregnant. I highly recommend breast reductions!!! Best thing I EVER did! One piece of advice is that if you plan having more children, I would wait because you won't be able to breastfeed from what I've heard.
