Day 1

meaning yesterday of course.  I did well on the 10 comandments - food wise (from 1 - 5) I broke comandment 5. Contrary to what I had said the day before I did get dessert - it was a small piece, not very tasty actually but I did fall for it - it had a bit of chocolate in it but I won't take that as breaking comandment no. 3 since in 3, by chocolate I mean the chocolate bars thing.  To my credit, not only I did not have a 2nd glass of wine/beer I did not even  get the one.  The exercise I did all and drank my water. All in all a good start.

For those who  don't know what I'm talking about, here are my 10 comandments - I'm trying to follow these until 10th January - small steps, small steps.

1.  Thou shall not eat Maltese Bread.
2.  Thou shall not have butter spread on anything - only allowed in small amounts in cooking.
3.  Thou shall not have chocolate.
4.  Thou shall not have more than 1 glass of wine or 1 beer when we go out.
5.  Thou shall say no to dessert.
6.  Thou shall walk or swim for 30 mins each day.
7.  Thou shall do 100 sit ups a day.
8   Thou shall do 30 push ups a day.
9.  Thou shall do some stretching everyday.
10. Thou shall drink 6 glasses of water every day.

Started off the day with a fight with my m other. She has this terrible cough going on for weeks now. It kills me tohear her cough but it kills me more to see her still smoking AND doing things she shouldn't do like washing clothes.  We had this fight last week cause I told her I 'd wash the clothes andby the time I went to the butcher I she started them off.  We do not even have an automatic machine becuase SHE says she feels comfortable with the stupid twin-tub.  This morning she did it again. My mother and I - we have an excellent relationship but she is going to drive me away with her behaviour.  What she is doing is not fair on her and on us.  She won't quit cigarettes notwithstanding a cancer scare we got with dad 10 years ago which saw him quitting.  I feel the shadow of lung cancer over us. This morning I told her that if I could afford it I would go live on my own cause I just can't take this behaviour.  Harsh words which I've never said before, I've always had a very easy going relationship with my parents but she can't keep pushing me like this. 

Off to my walk - I feel better when I get something major like that out of the way.  Today I have lunch with a couple of girlfriends but I promise NO to dessert.  Strangely enough what I found hardest was the 30 pushups which I did in sets of 5.  Good day.

YAY!

You're off to a great start.  I'm so glad. 

Sorry about your mom.  You know, I had quit smoking for a few years.  Then when we found out my dad was sick, I kind of started back.  (I've quit again.)  But it made no sense.  Here my dad was dying of a lung disease and I'm puffing away.  In a strange way, it was my comfort.  Who knows??  It IS hard to quit, though.  I hope you and your mom can make up.  Has she been to the doctor for her cough?

Try Guilt

You need to somehow explain to her that watching her being sick and not taking care of herself is hurting YOU.  If she thinks she's working so hard and doing so much to please you but realizes it's NOT pleasing you, maybe that will help.  Tell her you'd rather have dirty clothes and a healthy mom. 

What is keeping her from checking out the cough (with a doctor)?  Again, try guilt.  What if what she has is contagious and you're eventually going to get very sick?  Yeah, okay, chances are that would've happened by now, but try anything. 

Keep us posted.

~ Tracy

Oh No...

Sorry to hear about your situation with your mom.  That has to be stressful.  I hope something works out for you and for her!  (((hugs)))