I have been thinking about so many instances in my life where I have been made fun of for being larger, or when you go to the store and the skinny jackass behind the counter stares at you like, why are you buying this? What reminded me of this is...I went out this week and there was someone that was severely obese, and these teens were laughing and snickering. You could seriously see the horror on the mans face.
Empathy: the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, the thoughts, feelings and experiences of another.
My heart was breaking for the man. If only people knew how their actions and words effect others. Why do we as a society place so much emphasis on the outer shell? I know we are all trying to improve ourselves and there is nothing wrong with that. Its when it overflows into pointing, gesturing, and name calling that I have a problem with. I mean none of us are guilt free from the snicker factor but since I began this trip of a new me....I have started to notice the way I treat others, and how others treat me. Maybe we need to have a little more empathy. Like the saying goes...You never know what someone else has been through until you walk a mile in their shoes.
Ok, enough deepness today....Here is a funny...forever, I have noticed I had a HUGE dimple in my butt...yea not really eye appealing. Well, I was in the shower this morning and I felt for the dimple and OMG to my shock, it was just a small dip. I was like holy cow!!!! I was totally amazed that I called NASA and told them I didnt need the Mars Rover now to explore the crater on my butt.
I hope you all have a great day!!!
Dimple Diva!
Posted By: chickofegg
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07/26/2007 13:24
You are so right!!!
How horrible for that man. I didn't even witness the act and yet my heart breaks for him. It is important that we all treat people the way we would like to be treated. Just because someone may be overweight does not mean they aren't just like us on the inside!!
Hooray for the crater becoming just a little dip!!
You're absolutely right - we as a society place far too much emphasis on looks and severely hurt people in the process. We all need to work harder to be a little kinder, a little more forgiving. As my grandfather always says, there but for the grace of God go I.
Nasa called they said that crater in your butt is shrinking so fast it will be memory in no time! You are right, people's worth shouldn't be judged by their pant size, our society puts too much emphasis on what someone looks like and not enough on who they are as a person. Take care :-)
So happy your crater is now a small pothole. If I could only do something about the acne that has left my face and invaded my ass!! Ok I know TMI LOL
You know I don't think of myself as a fat person until I look in the mirror, then I am the biggest critic on the planet!
Good luck with that ever shrinking crater/pothole!
Mo
I'll keep that in mind, too. I know I'm guilty. Does it really make me feel better to make fun of somebody else? No. It makes me feel good to make others feel good!
Empathy begins with one person and then we pray that it will become contagious and spread to others. Then soon it will become so large that it consumes all the cruel and critical people on this earth.
I know what you mean about the way people treat one another.
I definitely have noticed people being nicer to me in public now that I'm smaller, esp the meat man at Albertson's! i don't remember him ever saying anything to me before, but now he smiles and asks how my day is going. Weird.
but it's not just there. It's in Home Depot, Lowes, JcPenney, everywhere.
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07/27/2007 11:17
hi
You weight loss chart is amazing, congrats, I can't wait to be down 24lbs! The sad part of your story is the reality of how cruel people can be. What joy comes from making fun of some one's size, they know they are overweight.. A qoute I try to teach my daughter, is "do on to others as you would want done upon you!" And everything you need to know in life you learned in kindergarden, I think there is a poem i read somewhere that listed all these things you learned and it hits home! Have a great day!
They are so cruel. They must have nothing better to do!
Posted By:
07/27/2007 15:57
Empathy
I've been where that man was. I have stories that I'm ashamed to tell where I have been treated horribly because of my weight. You hold your head up and act unaffected but really you wish for a hole to open up beneath your feet and suck you into it. I remember watching something on TV where they had a woman dress in a fat suit to see how others would react to her and I remember one audience member giving the excuse that people react that way because they are shocked and uncomfortable so they blurt out things. I don't care, that's no excuse. What did our Moms used to say? "IF you can't say anything nice..." But you know our society is permitting more and more rudeness to become acceptable. It's a form of humor that I really don't like.
You are doing phenomenal in your weight loss. Down 24 pounds is wonderful. Keep up the great and inspirational work!
I've been on both sides of the fence. people do treat you differently when you are smaller, it's like the see you as a person, but , when you gain weight, you are no longer an individual. I remember being extremely bitter when I orignally lost the weight in my 20's because people who never paid attention to me, now wanted to get to know me ...some individuals are just cruel as for adolescents ...let's not go there....enough of this ....great accomplishment on the shrinking crater.....i though that was funny!
I agree with you about empathy...and not just about weight issues either. Just because someone's different doesn't mean you are better. I try to teach my kids that all the time.
