There was no blog yesterday because I had a day of deep thinking, Yes..I too can think! My mind kept running to all the ruts I am in. Whether they are food, relationships, mind set..they are still ruts...
Definition of rut: 1. habitual passage. 2. A usual or fixed practice 3. a monotonous routine.
First rut: Weight. I was always known as the Funny Fat girl...No more, I am tired of it...I am making changes in diet, exercise, lifestyle. Overcoming the mentality of it all is the hardest part! Pushing myself to be the skinny person I long to be, yet in my head I still picture the "fat" girl I have always been.
Second rut: Relationship. My husband comes home from work, watches tv, and I play in front of the computer until we go to sleep. This is nightly...this is a rut...I realized I am not content being in this rut with my marriage...hub and i decided its time for a change, time to spark things up. Time to focus on each other and the reasons we fell in love, got married..etc. I tend to think a lot of the place we are in is because hub works all day, and I cook, clean, laundry, chase kids...who wants to be romantic after the end of a full day? No more..time for the change.
Third rut: Mentality....The i cants, the why me's, the oh nos...have got to stop. There are not many of us who say they dont fall into this rut, one time or another, I know I am guilty of it. I find myself doubting my ability to do something and it pushes me to not even try out of fear of failure. We cant be afraid to try, we cant doubt ourselves, we have to believe. Getting out of the mental rut is hard! Its hard to change our way of thinking. We as humans find it easier to say I cant..instead of saying I will...I will conquer. I will be the best me. Negativity is always easier than finding something positive to say in situations. well I am digging myself out of this hole....I cant do it anymore.
You may ask..why all the ranting...but it makes perfect sense to me. Its time for a change. Time to think of what ruts we are stuck in and get out...Dont choose to stay in a common place for fear of trying.
I hope you all have a great day! Keep smiling, Keep your head up. PS. I think TOM is on the way, because I am ready to knock a little kid over if they had chocolate. My poor kids better watch out! I can see the news headline now...TOM makes mother crazed as she tramples her young for chocolate...lovely thought, huh?
Gail
Posted By: chickofegg
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05/18/2007 14:32
LOL!
That would be a hilarious headline about the chocolate! I love the "rut reflections" you have posted today. Glad to see you'll be making some positive changes in your life. I think we all need that.
This was great, it got me to think a lot too, I know I am in a rut, as well as my relationship. You have inspired me to examine my own life, and finf ways out of my ruts as well. Thank you, and I'm happy to see that you are making progess. But it's important to remember, no matter the size, you are always beautiful!!
Now that you have acknowledged that there are changes to make, you are in a position to do something about them. I wish you the best of luck in your quest for happiness. Take care of yourself!
Angel
Its interesting what you say about being in a rut. So easy to get into. So much harder to get out of. But there must be things you can do even one or two nights a week....out walking, go to a park etc....that would get you guys interacting again. I hope it works. Good luck.
I think that you are onto something and that great! This is the postive energy you need to make change. And change is good, not many people are accustomed to change, so I salute you. This is a new chapter and you can change it any way you want. Its in your hands, girlfriend......
I enjoyed that and do did the others.......hey, have you ever thought of becoming a "motivational speaker"? just a thought, you do it so well: D
WOW sounds the same over here!! you are not alone...for the past two weeks....we have been spending more quality time together and doing things OUTDOORS...i made it my mission to keepdoing this...Keep doing it girl andit's good that you know what your ruts are...maybe one day we ALL can be out of our ruts :)
