What energy do you put out?

I read something interesting in Dr. Wayne Dyer's 10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace, on p.41, it is as follows:

One of the lessons I continue to learn and practice is that the universe responds with the same energy that we send out.  If you attract a lot of people who want to take advantage of you, you need to consider what you are doing to attract victimizers in your life.  If you run into anger a lot, explore the angry thoughts you have inside you.  If your consciousness is a "Gimme!  Gimme!  Gimme! energy,  you'll atrract  all manners of demanding energies into your life.

This is part of the Awareness that we attune when on our weightloss journey and I have grown more aware in every area of my life, thanks to losing the weight and loving me.  Thanks Helen for introducing me to this book.

Haters and Sabateurs

Helen- since I began my weightloss journey I have found whom was true to me, and whom was not.  Let us just say the latter group was greater.  I never heard the words "heart friend." but relatives and hangers-on were always ready to party with their "fat friend, or relative" no competition. I mean, come on, we live in the world of female-to-female combat, who is skinnier, richer, kinder, a better Mom, daughter...it is like this neverending cycle.  Even before I really took that step to lose this weight, almost a total of 60 lbs now, I was cleaning out my closet and things were light and airy in my house.  I loved me more everyday, I mean I was worth it and I had forgotten myself in the crossfire.  The crossfire of nay-sayers, jealous onlookers, or plain-old sabateurs.  The good thing now was that I knew I had the right to have boundaries, to no longer only draw a line in the sand but put bricks and mortar up where necessary.  I mean I cleaned out my closet in an extreme way.  I had one sort of hanger-on-no good-acquaintance -friend whom did not know how to take "no" for an answer.  We got into a disagreement, she stormed out, and I never looked back.  She later tried to re-enter my life and I told myself, why mess with perfection.  I was doing fine without her and let's leave it that way.

Then there was the neice, the neice whom forever was inseure, unstable, irresposible, thinking whe was 18 forever, and the only female the guys could look at when we were out.  This was even at my heavy weight.  She was at a nice weight with double DDs that she loved to show off.  I would go with her places and she would have to dress up, wear tall shoes, and walk ahead of me because she could not stand when the men looked at me.  When my relationship of 6 years broke up she fakely asked, "Are you ok?"  She could not have cared less.  Without going into the long, boring and narcissistic story.  I cut her off for good.  Again, she tried to re-enter my life.  I thought let me give it a try.  It did not work.  She is out.  I am fine with that.  I do not need her negativity, instability, boyfriend-hopping, job-changing ways to be near me.  She cares for one person, that is herself.  She pins her validation on the latest man of the moment, usually they take off.  But I suppose a little discretion would lead to better choices of partners.  She is out, and life is quiet and fine now.  Now that I am much smaller, slimmer, and better financially she is nowhere to be found.  Oh well.  Awareness is key.