I had a rough night Friday night. I was feeling pretty good about myself that day. You know sometimes you have good days when you dont feel like an obese cow...well I was having one of those days where I was feeling like I was starting to look pretty good. Well my DH and I went out for dinner. We went to O'Charleys. There was a wait so we were sitting there waiting and these two couples come in. They decide to wait too. There are no more seats so they stand...right in front of me and the DH. Both ladies are tall and very thin. They were there for about five minutes and here is wait they said:
Brunette: Can you believe how short her shirt is? She should be embarrassed.
Blonde: OMG! You know I hate when fat people wear those tight shirts and when they sit down you can see all thier rolls. Its just gross.
Brunette: I dont like it at all. It looks stupid.
Blonde: Doesnt she know how trashy she looks?...they both laugh
As I sat there feeling my heart go to my toes and tears start to form in my eyes, they call our name to be seated. You see I was who they were talking about. I had on the skorts I had just bought last week and two pink tanks...the outfit in the "after" pic I have here on my page. There was noone else sitting there that they could have been talking about...I looked. There was a group of older (in there 60s maybe) ladies and a group of men and then a couple and the girl in that couple wasnt dressed anything like me. I was so heartbroken. And these were grown woman. They werent teenage kids. Hell the blonde had more wrinkles than me. I would say they were both in thier late 30s.
I sat there thru dinner trying not to cry. I had decided before we ever left the house to go eat that I was gonna look at the menu and eat whatever I wanted. Of course I would probly cut it in half and set the fries to the side and all that stuff. But I wasnt gonna have salad. I felt so bad about myself guess what I ordered...lettuce with plain grilled chicken.
I felt so bad...I just wanted to crawl in a hole and die. I spent the rest of the weekend with those words in my head. Just how trashy do I look? Just how fat am I really? I just cant seem to let this go. I...for a split second...wanted to tell them where to go. But before I could get one word out of my mouth I could tell if I said one word I would start to cry.
You know, even if what they were saying was true they had no right to say it. They knew I could hear them. They just stood there laughing and making fun of me. Why are people so mean?
Posted By: Brelee
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04/28/2008 11:29
mean girls
they are obviously very unhappy people. Someone who wears a size 8 skort IS NOT fat! I think I would have had to say "bitch" just loud enough for them to hear as I walked by. I know it's too late for this....but don't let stupid comments like that get to you.
That's terrible. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I would like to say that I would have said something. But I know sometimes when they hit below the belt like that, it just catches you completely off guard. You want to disappear and NOT call anymore attention to yourself. Don't listen to them, though. You look so good. And I can't see any rolls. UGH! I'm so mad right now after reading this. Why do people think they can get away with that?? I mean, damn! You know, I saw a bumper sticker a long time ago. It said, "I may be fat, but you're ugly and I can lose weight." In other words, they will still be ugly. Well, those women are ugly on the INSIDE. So, you don't think about it anymore. Don't let it deter all your hard work. You look HAWT!
FUCK THEM! You are in a fucking size 8! How much more thin can you get???!!!!
I know it's easy for me to say. However, I've experienced similar situations. You need to do what is right for you. They, obviously, are the pigs for being so rude to make those comments when you could hear. Just remember, the best revenge is to live well!
People that have to tear down others to make themselves feel better are very unhappy people indeed. You, on the other hand, are happy, healthy, and beautiful. Try to remember all of the good things that you have gained, and how far you have come. Something tells me those women don't know what it means to struggle or fight for something.
And I'll bet you could've kicked their asses, too!
Really, I agree with all the comments, you're a size 8!!! that's just healthy! don't let this get you down, you're well on your way to your goal! you're almost there! it's wonderful! you can't let two bitches take that from you because truth be told, there will always be bad people somewhere...they remind us why we have to try our best to be good, so we can undo the harm they do to others :)
Honey you have done an awesome with your weight loss. Look what you have accomplished. They have probably never tasted real food for the sake of vanity. You look awesome and I am so proud of you. My sister is one of those girls. I have heard her and her friends make comments about me in the past. It really truely hurts your feelings but you know what, they all suck and untill they have walked a mile in our shoes they have no right. You are better then them and you always will be. You know what it is to take a challenge head on and accomplish what you set your mind to. THEY have probably never met a goal a day in their life.
Some people have no class or respect and are just plain ol jealous!! I can't believe they said that. You? a fat girl? Hell no!! Obviously they lacked conversation and had to find something mindless and dumb to talk about to entertain themselves.
You should of seriously tapped her on the shoulder and say : excuse me? I know this wonderful anti-wrinkle face cream that my mom uses, you would LOVE it! ((and imagine yourself grinning as you leave with your man))
I am so sorry! Those women had no right at all to do that to you!!!! YOU LOOK GREAT! Let me say it again.... YOU LOOK GREAT!
You have made so many changes. I am so proud of you and I barely even know you! Most of the time when people like that do or say things, it is because of their own lack of self worth or insecurities.
I know it is easy for me to say,but please do not let those women bother you or get under your skin. Be proud of who you are and what you have done. Your husband loves you, your kids are obviously proud of you, you have friends who care about you, but most importantly , you need to love and be proud of you.
I don't think people think about the effect their words can have on others. I too have had many "mean" things said to me and have felt crush. However, those people did not mean anything to me. They did not know the real me only what they saw, so I try to not let those words get me down.
You are doing wonderfully. I am with another post I saw, F**K Those ladies!
Mean Mean GIRLS!!!! You are far from fat.... Now that twin of yours well , No more SMACK here.
They are small minded people. U have come so far dont listen to them for one minute. Not sure what they were looking at you LQQK HOT!!! What was DH thinking...? I'd like to think mine would have givin them his 2 cents...
He is surely proud to have you on his arm, and at the end of the day thats all that matters. That and that you feel good about yourself. Which you should.
I mean DANG you have lost 90 lbs for peats sake. Like Tatums mom said.
I MAY BE FAT( far from it) BUT YOUR UGLY!!!!! ( they were ugly)
OMG GIRL! I can't beleive that SHIT!!!!!!!! I can't beleive they would say that about YOU!!!!!! You are even one of those people with the tiny trim waists------ what fat rolls????! WTH was wrong with them?????
What did your hubby say? I just feel horrible for you. You look totally fabulous girl and your journey that you have made so far is absolutely amazing. I know it's hard and that peoples comments get stuck in your head causing you to spiral downward. You don't know them, they don't mean anything, they have no credibility---- FORGET THOSE BITCHES!
Nasty Catty B*tches! Bree You are a big source of motivation for me. I visit you blog everyday to see the progress you have made and to make sure I keep making some of my own. TatumsMom is right. We can always loose weight, but their ugliness will never go away. Those snobs obviously don't know what class is, and one day karma will bite them in the Ass and I hope they gain 50lbs.
You are more beautiful then they ever will be and honestly are probably in better shape. Next time just turn around and tell them that you know a great ettiquett teacher that could give them a lesson on tact and class, because they obviously don't have any. Hold your head high and confidently sashee (sp?) to your seat. Do not let them get to you, don't give anyone the right to make you feel low!
Oh sweetie...I am so sorry you had to have that experience. Reading it brought back those awful school days memories....you might expect something like that from children but for adults...it is awful.
The only thing is that someday their karma will catch up to them.
That is just SO wrong in so many different ways! I am ready to drive there and kick so booty! What sour pusses!! They have no idea of the struggles you have gone through and the commitment you have made to lose all this weight. I would have said "Better to be fat than stupid like you." You should adopt Pink's song "Stupid Girls" as your mantra...too bad you didn't have it on your cell and couldn't have played it as you walked by!
BTW: You look AMAZING and I for one cannot wait to be as "fat" as you!!!!!!!!
They've got nothing on you. Your accomplishments speak for themselves. You look killer in that outfit- I love the tank tops!
Bitches like that are bitter and superficial. We look at them sometimes with envy- their thinness, their whatever, but, it fades, and they're going to be left with absolutely nothing.
A trophy wife (like they sound) just ends up collecting dust on someone's shelf anyway.
You have a great little bod going on - a small waist and a nice size bust to go with it. I can bet those mean little, skan*s were flat as a board and wanted to be spitefull.
You KNOW that they were being bitchy to be mean if they did it in ear shot.
that's crazy. I agree with everyone else. They were just insecure about themselves. I was just a little bit lighter(145) in highschool and I were a lot worse stuff than your pink tank top and I felt great and looked great. And you look better than I did when I was 145. Be proud of who you are and how much you've accomplished. Something tells me if put in the same situation they would have never been able to do what you have accomplished period. Let alone in the time you did. Take care.
I can imagine how you feel. But you need to ignore them. They were petty and spiteful. You are almost at goal, NOT FAT at all!!!!!
Imagine if they said you were stupid, or ran funny... you would ignore them. What do they know? Brush this off. Look at those photos. Look at that graph. Look at a 90lb bag of something!
I read the post before I looked at your picture... and then I looked at the picture and wondered if it was really the lady in the picture who wrote this! I wouldn't consider you fat at all, you look great! It's a shame that others see women who aren't anorexic thin as fat. You're healthy!
Oh girl!! First of all big (((hugs)))!! I am so sorry that you had the misfortune of meeting those ugly women. I tell my students all of the time (especially my girls) that other people will talk about you when they are jealous!! Don't you give those girls one more thought. You are smoking hot and don't you let anyone make you feel any differently!!
You are far from fat.... Now that twin of yours well , 
No more SMACK here.
What was DH thinking...? I'd like to think mine would have givin them his 2 cents...