Life as we know it.....

Is about to drastically change at my house.

We got a phone call yesterday from DH's ex-wife.  His 16 year old daughter, who pretty much cut us out of her life for the last few years, has gotten out of control.  His ex can no longer handle her.... So, guess who she's coming to live with. 

I love her.... I've been with her dad since she was 11 months old.   But I have to admit that from what I hear about the way she has been lately, I am a little scared.  Not as in scared for our safety or anything like that, I think it's more "am I ready to deal with this?"    She is dressing all in black, reading books on the occult, wants to drop out of school, has already had sex.... the whole nine yards. 

I have 3 children at home, but I have a 13 year old who I am especially afraid will be influenced, and they will be sharing a room.   I know that wonderful kid I know is in there, we just have to help her find her again and bring her back out!

Just keep us in your thoughts/prayers.  We are going to need it, especially during the first few weeks/months... we are all going to go through a period of adjustment.

I went on a 4.5 mile run this morning to try to clear my head before it all begins.  DH is going to get up in about 30 minutes and start getting ready to go pick her up.

I'll keep you posted.

Becki   ~Philippians 4:13

Prayers

I sure wish you and your family the best.  My mother sent my brothers to live with our dad when they too got out of control.  They resented her and blamed her for everything that happened to them.  My youngest brother still holds a grudge I think, and mom passed away almost three years ago. 

It's a tough situation and the best that we can hope for is that they appreciate all the things that we did to try and steer them in the right direction. 

My thoughts are with you.

Praying for you

Just said a little prayer for your situation.  Praying the Lord will grant you wisdom and peace while you go through this. And that your 13 year old will have a strong influence on your step daughter.  When I looked at your profile I realized you are just up the street from me. I'm in Kathleen.  God bless you.

Julie

Oh dear

Sorry to hear you are going to have to deal with this. My thoughts are with you. I have no experience in this area, but hope that everyone involved can keep perspective on things, and that you all have permission to (and a plan for how you will) escape the pressures now and then--whether that is going for a run or out for the evening with friends or whatever form that may take.

Best of luck, Becks. xx

Prayers going up

It's going to be tough, but find a way to breakthrough to her.  She sounds a lot like I was when my mom sent me to my dad's to live.  There were just so many bad things going on in my life that my parents didn't know.  Maybe her mom has to work a lot and can't spend the time to get in her "business" or maybe this is a cry for help.

I was a ruaway, a troubled-promiscuous kid, and I wasn't good at sharing my feelings.  So in her defense...maybe something else is going on that no one knows or can see.

I do however wish the family well (all parties) and hope that you all find comfort and peace in each other.

Hugs