You know I have this co-worker who is always down. There's ALWAYS something wrong. She walks around with her eyes sulking and her head tilted in that way... you know.... when you don't feel well. She has physical problems, but she also is never happy. It has gotten to the point where nobody really wants to ask her the simple, "How are you?" because it's a 45 minute conversation on how miserable she is.
Is that any way to live? NO!
I am so thankful that I'm not a miserable person. I have my issues. I need to work on things. I'm not there yet on being "happy" all the way. But I am not a miserable person. I see the positive. I realize that there is a positive in most things.
More importantly than that... I know the key to happiness lies within me. I know that I have control over whether or not I'm happy. I have control over how I re-act to situations. I have control over whether or not I let the misery overcome me. I choose not to. I want to be happy. I want to be happy being happy. Not happy being miserable.
Posted By: TatumsMom
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06/05/2009 03:39
LOL
My WW leader's motto and the the question he asks us EVERY meeting is "Are you living the good life?". He says "Life is Good. Sometimes it sucks, but Life is Good".
I always try to remember when stuff is tough that Life really IS good, but we all have tough times. Sounds like this lady needs a little dose of David in her life. But, you have to want to believe in the first place. I'm guessing even Peter Pan couldn't make her want to.
Yes, in general I like being around people who are positive, not people who bring on more negativity. I know what you are talking about... and as far as you goes, you have nothing to worry about chica. I enjoy reading your blogs because you inevitably take charge, even if there are a few pity me days in between. That's called normal. That's called not giving up on getting where you want to be.
Sometimes I feel like that haha but then I remember that like you said I control my happiness!!!!!!! Some people just like to wallow in their self inflicted misery :(
thanks for blogging that - I've so got a colleague like that. We share an office and she drives me nuts. I call her Norma Nightmare now! There is nothing you can do for them, if they weren't being miserable thery wouldn't be happy!
my sister. everyone else has a great life and she has all the problems in the world. i always find a way to throw something postive at her, thats a sure fire way to get her to stop complaining.
OMG I hate people like that!!!! I swear to you that just yesterday I had a similar light bulb moment. I have some friends that have recently just blown me off for no reason (probably because they are too self absorbed and busy and don't realize it), so I decided that that was fine with me. From now on I'm not going to deal with negative energy from people (live or online). I'm going to surround myself with people who give off a positive vibe. We all have bad days, but we have the power to change the things we can change!
Some people are only happy when they are miserable. How sad would that be? Having a positive outlook and a smile on your face is much more healthy!! :)
I think I work with her sister :-).. Find myself taking the long route to my desk to avoid having to walk by her and I have learned the hard way that if you show any sympathy , you are lost .
Oh, I do know what you mean. Those are the people that you start to avoid, and unfortunately it probably only makes them unhappier because they are lonelier.
We had a convo with our DS14 about this very thing. He can be a pessimist at times and we have told him that he needs to look on the bright side. I am sure a lot of this is due to puberty, but still, we don't want him to end up sad and lonely. We told him that positive people hang around positive people.
You're right, being that down and miserable must be a terrible way to live. We have two of them at work, one near me and the other one in a different building.
We're fortunate that while we all have some problems or issues to resolve, we can at least stay positive.
Yeah, there is always someone like that around. I work in a school and since schools are not doing well there are a lot of unhappy people. It drives me crazy sometimes because it's all anyone talks about anymore. There is one person in particular who spends half her time talking about her woes with another co-worker. I'm just glad I'm not that person otherwise I wouldn't have time to get anything done.
I like your outlook on life. There are bad times but we get through it, it's not forever and there are things to look forward to. I have friends who talk like I'm too much of a positive person, but I disagree with that. I just try to make an effort not to bitch all the time because I know nobody wants or needs to hear it.
but still, we don't want him to end up sad and lonely. We told him that positive people hang around positive people.